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BLOG POST #195: Research on a true-crime case involving a 13-year-old boy who’d been relentlessly bullied.
Anytime is the perfect time to have conversations with your children or grandchildren about bullying. Kids need to understand what to do and what not to do if they are a victim of bullying.
It doesn’t take much to hurt a child’s feelings and break down their self-esteem. Bullies know this all too well. As a grandmother, when I learn of my grandchildren being bullied, it’s hard not to charge into the school and demand action. Unfortunately, it’s a delicate situation—it shouldn’t be delicate—but politics come into play.
Parents are fearful if they say something, the bullying will get worse. Often times, the bullied child begs the parent not to say anything or keeps the bullying a secret.
What about this scenario: The sports coach, who’s a bully, tells the kids if they have a problem with her/him—don’t run and tattle to their parents—talk to the coach themselves? How’s a child supposed to know what to do in that scenario (true story)?!
It was reported by Danny’s family that after he went to school officials to ask for help, all the boys, including Danny, were gathered in one room to discuss the behavior.
Danny’s mother was quoted to have said kids threw balls at her son in gym class; called him names, and often told him he was weird. He felt humiliated. That type of ridicule and torment wears you down. Kids start to believe it and feel the harassment will never end.
One of Danny’s sisters found him deceased in the attic. He’d written a final letter and wrote that he’d reached out to school staff but felt they did nothing, his frustration is felt in the suicide letter he left behind. Read for yourself: I Gave Up
Since Danny’s Death
Danny’s Law Legislation is working its way through Congress. The Bill requires an Anti-Bullying Roundtable to be established to study bullying at elementary and secondary schools in the USA. Danny’s Law
Danny’s Angel Network Nurturing Youth (D.A.N.N.Y.) was formed to educate and protect youths against shades of bullying. Danny’s Angels
Danny’s family has filed a wrongful death lawsuit against the Catholic School Danny attended prior to his death. The case has not been settled.
Worth mentioning: Three years after the suicide, both the school principal at the time and the teacher whom the boy felt was helpful are no longer on the staff roster at the school Danny attended.
Must See TV: If you haven’t seen the 2015 documentary, “A Girl Like Her” available free through Amazon Prime Video (if you’re a member), watch it with your kids or by yourself. It’ll give you a glimpse of what unfiltered bullying looks like from the view of a hidden camera. The film will help start the conversation about what not to do.
Here are two great resources for parents: StopBullying.gov
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Thanks for reading and caring about children!
Source: People.com, Goodhousekeeping.com, NewYorkPost.com
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